Lately, it may seem like all your friends are falling in love, taking a trip down the aisle, and keeping you posted every step of the way. This is a great idea: most married couples are so overwhelmed with joy that they want to shout it from the rooftops, and social media is the next best thing in the 21st century.
When you bring a wedding into the social sphere, how much is too much? Wedding ceremonies should walk a fine line between the old-school traditions and modern-age technology. Here are a few simple rules for marrying social media with your special day:
What To DO:
Consult Your Friends and Family
There’s no two ways about it: wedding planning is stressful. Between decorations, music, flowers, and food, many couples find themselves overwhelmed with options before you can say “eggshell or ecru?”
Enter your social network: the people on your friends list care about you, and they certainly want you to be exceptionally happy when you get married. Ask their opinions when you really cannot decide on your centerpieces. You might find that a fresh pair of eyes are just what you need to make your decision.
Live Stream Your Ceremony
Not everyone will be able to make it to your nuptials, particularly if you have a destination wedding. But even if they aren’t there physically, there are bound to be friends and family who would love to share in your ceremony. So why not set up a live stream?
Talk to your photographer and see if he or she can work with you to set up a live video feed. Then, tell those far-away guests to tune in! This is a great way to include people who couldn’t make the wedding into the start of your married life.
Make A Hashtag
Wedding hashtags are a simple way to keep all the wedding talk in one place. With a hashtag on sites such as Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, you will be able to search for photos, status updates, and anything else you might have shared from the day you got engaged to the day you said “I do.”
Just make sure your hashtag is unique – most people incorporate the couple’s names, the wedding date, and maybe a pun to keep it fun. This way, your wedding hashtag won’t get mixed up with another couples’. Also, make sure your hashtag is clearly visible to your wedding guests, so that they can use it to document their experiences, too!
Communicate With Your Guests
A live stream that a professional videographer sets up is great; a periscope video your cousin uploads while you exchange vows is not. When you incorporate social media into your wedding, it is important that you lay out guidelines for your guests. After all, social media can be as disruptive as it is innovative, and you want to make sure the technology works for you.
If you don’t want any phones out during the ceremony, say so! If you want everyone to take a selfie at their table (and post it with your wedding hashtag) say so! At the end of the day, you’ll want to remember your wedding as a loving, joyous occasion. Ensuring that everyone is on the same page will help eliminate the wedding day drama.
What NOT to do:
Announce Your Engagement Immediately
I know, you’re excited. She (or you) said yes! But while this is a special, intimate moment for the two of you, it’s also special for the people closest to you. Your parents, siblings, and best friends have been there from the start, supporting you both as you grew as a couple. They don’t want to learn of your engagement on Facebook. So make a few phone calls before you post a photo of that diamond ring.
Take Advantage of Your Social Network
It’s perfectly fine to ask your best friend to sing a song at your wedding. It’s even fine to enlist a few close friends for a difficult DIY project. But posting a status saying, “Can anyone come over and help me make wedding favors? LOL” seems like you are trying to take advantage of your friends. This can sow seeds of resentment, and your wedding should be happy occasion!
Share Your Registry
Your wedding is an opportunity for you to exchange vows with the person you love in front of all your family and friends – it is not an opportunity to update your kitchenware. And while the gifts you’ll receive are lovely and generous and you’ll be grateful for them, posting a link to your registry on social media cheapens the whole event. Just don’t do it.
Get Stuck Behind Your Screen
Remember when I said that social media can be disruptive? Well, if you spend your whole day tweeting or taking selfies, you’ll see exactly what I mean. A wedding is a momentous occasion, a day you’ll only ever have once (knock on wood). It is important that you take in every moment, and that means putting down the phone and really living in the present.
Have a great Wedding Day!